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"If I could give Mum anything I'd want her to be better and still in the Air Force, doing what she loves"

Ann Hughes served in the RAF Police but in 2007 her RAF career was cut short when she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. In this guest blog, Ann's daughter, Lauren, tells us about her amazing mum.

If you ever have the opportunity to meet my mum, it would be a moment you'd never forget! It's hard to describe but she has never failed to make a positive contribution to any situation.

Ann Hughes and her family

If you're feeling down, she will be the one to listen to your problems and help. She will put others first no matter how much she may need help and if you ever ask her how she is, she will always say, "I'm fine thank you. How are you?"

Even if she's feeling at her lowest, my mum will never say because she never wants to be a bother. One day she'll realise she could never be a bother even if she tried!

At the time of her MS diagnosis, she was 36 and had been away in Iraq two years previous with the Royal Air Force.

The thing that makes me so proud is that no matter what, my mum was always there for me during her hardest times and never showed me how much she needed help.

I was seven years old when she was diagnosed and never once did she falter as a mother though it was hard for her.

To put on a brave face and act like things were all okay must have been hard and I can only imagine how tough the first few years were for her. Luckily, my dad was there to help and support my mum and even now he helps so much, more than anyone could ever hope to do.

Going through the progressions and repercussions of her illness was hard for my mum. She was always the one that walked so much faster than both me and Dad and she even ran a 10k for the RAF Benevolent Fund.

Losing the ability to walk as far has really hit her as she can no longer do what she loves.

As a young girl I enjoyed going to museums and long walks in the countryside but it's now close to impossible to do these because if it isn't wheelchair friendly then Mum can't get around.

Having to leave the Air Force made things much harder but as always, she put on a brave face. I guess it's her way of coping and I try not to get in the way of that.

Leaving a job that she had done for most of her life was something that really got to her. She had given nearly 20 years to the service and to leave was a tough situation.

Fortunately, my dad has always been able to make my mum feel better, whether it's using their silly sense of humour or just being there when she's needed a good cry.

Family and friends always ask why we are rarely down and in all honesty, we do get sad but we just have to keep positive.

With everything my mum has gone through, she deserves to be better and still in the Air Force, doing what she loves and if I could, I would give that to her for Mother's Day.

Instead, I will shower her with chocolates and perfume and let her relax!

I hope those who read this have a better understanding of my mum and what an amazing woman she really is and how much she's shaped me as a person.

So to you, my wonderful mum, Happy Mother's Day. Thank you for everything you do and I love you so much.

When Ann was struggling to find suitable accommodation for her needs, we were able to provide a Fund Housing Trust property with a specially adapted kitchen and garden. Now she can cook and garden independently – things she loves doing.

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