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Relationship counselling and mediation

We work with Relate to provide a little extra support for the RAF Family.

Relationship counselling

We can provide up to six free counselling sessions, with a trained Relate counsellor for RAF personnel, Reservists, veterans and their partners.

Whether married, living together, in a same-sex relationship, separated, divorced or single, our confidential service can help.

Counselling can be offered either face-to-face, via video call or over the telephone. Advice can also be accessed via web-based live chat. This gives everyone the opportunity to talk to a trained Relate counsellor in the most convenient way and means the service can be accessed overseas.

Please note, additional sessions can be funded on a financial needs basis and can be applied for directly through Relate.

Sex therapy

Sex therapy can help if you're experiencing difficulties in your sexual life and can help you to improve physical intimacy. RAF personnel, Reservists, veterans and their partners can access up to 20 free sessions through Relate, funded by the RAF Benevolent Fund.

Mediation support for couples

It can be stressful when a relationship breaks down but mediation can help to settle disputes over living arrangements, child maintenance, property and financial situations.

We can assist towards the cost of mediation services through Relate, for RAF personnel, Reservists, veterans and their partners, including covering the full cost of an initial session and subsidising the cost for a standard package of further sessions.

Is the service confidential?

Everything you say to a Relate consultant or counsellor will remain completely confidential. You will need to give your, or your partner's, service details to Relate, but this is simply to confirm eligibility.

No one apart from Relate and those delivering the service at the Fund, will be told that you have accessed these services unless there are safeguarding issues which may need to be acted upon.

Access the service

If you have any questions or wish to access the service, please contact our Wellbeing Services helpline on 0300 222 5703 or Our helpline is open Monday - Friday 09:30 - 15:30. Outside these hours please either leave a voicemail or email us. We will endeavor to respond within five working days. 

Am I eligible for support?

View our eligibility checklist to see if you would qualify for help.